“Look at me I was once chained to a desk and now I am earning megabucks and am free!” is the gist of so many online advertisements to lure us in to wanting a freedom lifestyle. “You can do the same, just pay for my goodies and you’ll be free too!”

It is a very compelling sales pitch and might well be true for that person. However, it is important that each of us makes life changes at a speed, and to an extent, that is right for us.

Many of us are gradually getting stressed and feeling unwell through jumping through hoops for others and there seems to be no way out. The freedom to live doing things that impassion, enliven and inspire us is really important. Living to our own rhythm and flow is too.

How many of us can just change the job, the family, and the stressors in our lives? A fairly small number I suspect. However, we can change our reaction to them – and that is something I do help people with these days, since I took a big leap and changed my life.

Why live the “freedom lifestyle?

Someone posed this question to me. It is true, I do work in a very flexible way these days. Work and my other priorities fit together like a big jigsaw, and it works well on the whole.

Reflecting on how I got here, the final tipping point to my long corporate career was in the summer of 2004. Yet another big Information Technology project I had been working on got “canned”. Anything without an immediate payback (to lift share prices) was stopped. My project was to replace several “legacy” computer systems with one shiny new one. It was something I felt passionate about because I spent my life telling business people “you can’t do that” because one of the systems couldn’t do what they wanted. The long-term strategic solution was the project I had put my heart and soul into. It was not to be.

The job was taking a lot out of me. The hours were long, and I had a 3-4 hour (120 mile) commute (the role had moved). I had to pay a dog walker, a cleaner and a gardener. It was as though they were living my life and I was my job. With just myself and the two dogs to consider why on earth was I putting myself through that?

Time to go

To test my resolve, my team was offered voluntary redundancy soon after. A big sign that it was time to make “me” the centre of my life. I wanted a future I believed in. It was scary because I had no idea what I was going to do but I had to move on and trusted that a new path would appear.

I took time out to get to know

myself again. It was lovely to walk the dogs in the winter sunshine along local footpaths. I could feel myself starting to put roots down at home for the very first time.

An offer came in March for contract IT work with flexible hours that gave me freedom and a good income. Perfect!

A new direction

A friend recommended I read Alberto Villoldo PhD’s ‘Shaman Healer Sage’ book. I went to Peru with his school and it completely changed my life.

I was a different person after all the ceremony we did there so I joined Alberto’s “Healing the Light Body” course to find out more. Suddenly I was working with spirit, channelling information and ‘seeing’ into the invisible worlds, together with plenty of personal development. The training was well structured and brought this ancient modality into the modern world in a way my scientific brain could accept.

In the autumn, I started to train as a homeopath too (I had used homeopathy for many years). Doing these two alongside my IT work was great.

In 2008 the IT work stopped, I met my (now) husband and I switched to become a therapist. My passion to make a difference now being devoted to improving people and animal’s lives, inspiring them to use natural therapies.

Growing and adapting to this new vocation was a massive change. Self-employment does give a “freedom lifestyle” of sorts.  It also takes a lot of focus, determination and self-motivation. The bits you aren’t good at still have to be done, and you must bounce back from the challenges that come your way.
If it is something you love doing though it is worth it. I feel very excited and privileged to work with each client. Matching my skills to his/her requirements takes all my abilities and yet it is so rewarding when I hear how the improvements manifest.

Does your life need more freedom in it?

If you feel your life has gone flat and is becoming a chore, get in touch. I have the skills, experience and integrity to support you to build a great new future at a pace that suits you..

I have seen shamanic clients change job/home/relationship in a short period of time and I also help others to cope when they are boxed in to a situation that is stressful. There is no judgement on my part, we each have a unique path in life and must make our own decisions. My role is to support that process.


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